How do you move on when you still love someone?
How do you let go when you are hoping that, by some miracle, things could be different?
When the person we are in love with no longer loves us back, we feel such a deep hollowness that it’s hard to imagine the prospect of happiness.
Following my experiences of being the rejected party, I was left desperately wondering how to get out of this unbearable feeling of loss.
One evening during my divorce, while watching the Sex And The City movie, I heard a line which has always stuck with me. As she was ending a relationship, Samantha Jones says:
“I’m just going to say the thing you’re not supposed to say: I love you, but I love me more.”
Talk about a bold statement of putting yourself first!
In the context of breakup rejection, I honestly think that quote sums up the bottom line in healing: In order to get through the heartbreak, you must love yourself more than you love the other person. (more…)