Hello and welcome
I'm Marissa Walter; counsellor, author, mother of three and I have been where you are now:
The marriage you thought would last forever, has ended. It’s been a painful, confusing, chaotic time. Even though you know it’s over, it’s hard to accept that it feels so....final.
You're stuck; trying to imagine a happy future seems impossible.
You still have days where you miss your partner and your old life.
You are dealing with emotions of anger and sadness which you hoped would be over by now. Maybe there was betrayal involved which has left you resentful and unforgiving.
All you can see are the challenges of divorce conflict or single parenthood and each day you feel drained of energy.
It might feel like there is no possibility of a happy future; you’ve had your chance at love and it failed. Maybe you feel too old to start over.
You're tired of feeling like this.....but there’s another part of you that still has a spark of hope that things can get better. Hope that you could feel real happiness; that you will laugh hard and love again.
Time can be a healer but it can also be slow, and you’re aware that this time next year, you don’t want to still feel the way you’re feeling now.
After my marriage ended devastatingly in 2010 I genuinely felt like I could never be happy again. The first step to healing was to allow my grief to be felt.
However, I soon became aware that simply feeling pain and waiting for it to pass wasn't enough. I immersed myself in reading about personal growth and started to write a blog about my experience of healing from heartbreak.
I realised that moving on more fully and more quickly required change.
I had a choice; I could let the end of my marriage make me bitter, mistrustful and fearful of the future or I could take back control of my life.
I chose to get my spark back and shine. I was not destined for misery because my relationship was over, no matter how deeply I had loved. I owed myself something bigger from life and only I could make that happen.
I am now more content with life than I've ever been. I have a new career where I am passionate about helping people see their lives change for the better after their broken relationships.
I feel happy and more confident with who I am as a person and a mother. I am in a happy relationship which is emotionally safe, healthy and full of love.
The truth is that you can move on and be happy too. Change is completely possible but it starts with YOU and how you view your break-up. When you allow yourself to see the opportunity in the loss, your whole world changes.
About my work
I am passionate about supporting you to move through this painful stressful time, to live your best life!
Break Up and Shine is about more than moving on - it’s about changing your perspective on life and rethinking how you see your divorce, so that it transforms you in a positive way instead of breaking you.
I'm a qualified counsellor and have been working with clients for the last 3 years, specialising in relationship issues with individuals and couples.
Through my divorce coaching I give you warm and empathic support while lovingly pushing you to achieve your goal. I help clients to really think in new ways and challenge how they see things in order to bring change. One of my most frequent pieces of feedback in sessions is: "that's a really good question!"
Since 2011, following my divorce I have been writing on the subject of transformation after break -up. You can read all my supportive and encouraging words on my blog. I've also been published on Tiny Buddha, Thrive Global, The Counselling Directory, and am featured in the 2015 book "Tiny Buddha's 365 Tiny Love Challenges".
In 2017 I published my own book "Break Up and Shine: The End Of Your Relationship Is The Making Of You". In it, I shared the process which took me from a place of pain and despair, into building a new, happy and purposeful life for myself. Those same processes form the basis of all of my services.
I also run free online support for people just like you who are looking to move on from the pain of divorce into a happier more meaningful life. Why? Because my divorce became my catalyst for a better life and I really care about helping you succeed too.
Your relationship is over, but your life is not.