This August marks a whole year since I published my book “Break Up and Shine: The End Of Your Relationship Is The Making Of You”! I started writing partly as self-healing, partly as a way to reach out and
Divorce And The Healing Power Of Decluttering
I cried when I sold my wedding ring. I wasn’t ready to get rid of it but I did it anyway. It felt drastic, final and gut-wrenching but ultimately satisfying. I had been through the worst of the grief
Divorce Grief: When You’re Stuck In An Emotional Rut
Whenever I write about break-up and divorce as an opportunity for growth, I am very mindful of the fact that we need to allow grief first. When we heap positive expectations or goals on top of unexpressed sorrow it doesn’t
Are You Waiting For Your Ex To Say Sorry?
One of the biggest things that kept me stuck emotionally in the early months of my divorce, was waiting for an apology which was never going to come. When relationships break down there is often a sense of injustice and
The Pain of Divorce: Moving from Grieving to Believing
When I encounter people in the early stages of a break-up, one of the most common beliefs I come across is their assertion that they will never feel truly happy again. A broken heart can leave feelings of grief
Is it ever “Too Late” to Start Over after Divorce?
Someone recently commented to me that, for women over 50, divorce is a “death sentence” and circumstances mean that there is no hope of a happier future. The words reminded me of the deep pain and despair that divorce can
5 Reasons the New Year is good for your Divorce
New Year’s Eve, with it’s positive celebrations, can feel bitter and painful when you are without the person you thought you would be spending the rest of your life with. The period leading up to a New Year is
Christmas with a Broken Heart? Be Kind to Yourself
My first Christmas post-break-up was emotionally tough; it was 10 months after my marriage had ended and the resurgence of grief took me by surprise. Special occasions can knock you off guard just when you think you are coping, and
When a loss is a win
When I started writing ‘Break Up and Shine’, I wanted to show others that a painful divorce need not be the end of everything good in your life, however horrendous it feels in the beginning. You can heal and move on, and it can
The New Year: Cycles and Goals
I feel like 2016 has been a year of consolidation and sowing the seeds for the next fruitful chapter of my life. I have barely written on this blog all year and have considered whether, six years on from the